Many people consider their companion animals to be members of their family. So it can be very difficult when it comes time to say goodbye. Our La Mesa vets offer advice on what to say when someone you know loses a pet and some simple ways that you can show support while they deal with the loss of their beloved friend.

What to Say When Someone Loses a Pet

It can be difficult to know how to comfort a friend who lost a pet, especially if you don't have pets yourself. While you may not understand the feelings that accompany these moments, you can still offer compassion and support to your friend or loved one after they have lost a pet.

It is important to keep in mind that everyone experiences loss differently and even if you have experience with pet loss, you may have grieved differently than others would. While you may feel tempted to compare the loss of your pet to the pet loss of someone else you should resist. This may leave your friend feeling as though you don't view their emotions as their own and that you are minimizing their experience.

You should also allow your loved one to lead the conversation without changing the subject and never make jokes at these times.

Condolence Cards for Those Experiencing Pet Loss

When someone is grieving the loss of their pet, receiving condolence cards is very kind. These let the person you care about know that you are thinking of them and that you are there for support. It's not necessary to write a long letter or story, just a quick note to express your thoughts. Here are some ideas for what to write on your card:

  • Thinking about you and your pet [pet's name]. If there is anything you need just let me know.
  • Life with our companions is never long enough! You are in our thoughts and prayers.
  • Wishing you comfort and peace during this difficult time.
  • I am so sorry for your loss. [Pet’s name] will be greatly missed.
  • Losing a loyal and faithful friend isn't easy. Please know that I'm thinking of you, and if you need to talk or share memories of him/her, please call me. I'm so sorry for your loss.
  • [Pet’s name] was such a great pet. You were lucky to have each other.
  • Losing such an important part of the family is never easy. I’m thinking about you.
  • I know you miss [pet’s name] terribly. I’m thinking about you and sending thoughts and prayers.
  • Smile at the memory of your beautiful pet, for they lit up this world with their joyous spirit.
  • [Pet's name] could not have had a better life or a more loving owner than you. They were incredibly blessed.

Other Ways to Show Support When Someone You Know Loses a Pet

While a card is lovely, there are also other ways that you can help show sympathy and support for people you know who are experiencing pet loss. Here are some other things that you can do during this time:

  • Send a memorial gift such as personalized indoor or outdoor memorial decor.
  • If you have photos of your friend's pet you can consider sending them along with the card.
  • Send flowers or a houseplant with the card.
  • Donate in the pet’s name to an animal organization or shelter.

No matter what you choose to do to show support it is important to watch how the person is coping with the loss of their pet. If you are concerned about their mental health during this time then it may be a good idea to help them look into resources for managing grief.

Our veterinarians in La Mesa offer pet loss and grieving support. Our on-site pet grief counseling services can help you process your loss and provide tools for a healthy mourning process. If you would like to know more about our pet grief counseling services, contact us today to speak with a member of our team.

Note: The advice provided in this post is intended for informational purposes and does not constitute medical advice regarding pets. For an accurate diagnosis of your pet's condition, please make an appointment with your vet.

Losing a beloved companion is difficult. Our La Mesa veterinary team wants you to know that you are not alone. We are here to offer support through this trying time.